Questions I’m asking myself these days
1 min readJun 25, 2020
- Why did I pick him? Does he remind me of the way I was loved by one / both of my parents? Have I just unknowingly repeated the scene of the original crime — my own childhood? And am I trying to have a happier ending this time?
- Am I seeing things as they are? Or am I making constant excuses? I need to get an honest picture of what’s going on.. I’m skewing the data.
- Do I feel like my needs are constantly overshadowed in spite of all my efforts to communicate them? Is there a safe space for my feelings?
- Am I being gaslighted? Is the story being re-written for me?
- Does he have a history / long standing pattern of unstable relationships? History doesn’t lie — pay attention to it.
- How do I feel when I’m around him? Separate and whole, or enmeshed and sucked into his drama? Does being around him make me feel peaceful or on edge?
- Since dating him, do I feel like I am a better version of myself? How did I feel about myself before i met him, and how do I feel about myself now?
